eattle Midlife Women’s Health Study, a longitudinal study spanning 23 years,
The study found that women noted changes in their midlife, such as their eating habits, recreation and sleeping habits. They also described suffering a major illness or injury which had triggered stress factors. Although written through her conversations with American women, the thread seems to be the same: This isn’t what I signed up for. Or, I am unhappy or unfulfilled with my life. Why have I worked so hard and still have debt or own nothing I can call my own?
“Apart from the kids, we didn’t have much in common anymore. We don’t agree on many issues and it was frustrating and upsetting to have conversations. The realisation of this after more than 20 years together, shocked me to the core. I suffered from depression, insomnia and constant fatigue,” she said.
With the help of her psychologist, she learnt to recognise her stress triggers and be selective with words during difficult conversations. “I no longer have an unhealthy co-dependent relationship with my husband. I make my own decisions and for once, I have freedom and independence which I have not felt since I was married. I am hoping this new person will be able to find peace with my family.”There is no single solution to a woman facing midlife crisis.
“Connect with other women who can support you at this time,” she advised. “Seek professional help from a counsellor or a psychologist if your feelings affect your daily activities or if you have suicidal thoughts.”